I once saw a commercial on TV where the TV hockey dad brings his TV hockey wife her coffee while she’s sitting in the hockey stands, just in time to see their son score a goal. Mom and Dad erupt into cheers and beam at their little guy with glowing hearts and steaming coffee.
In seventeen years of hockey, I have to say that I have never sat with my husband at any of my kids’ hockey games. First of all, for years it was pretty rare that my husband and I could even attend hockey games together, let alone sit in the stands together. With three hockey players in the household, evenings and weekends typically meant going our separate ways with a kid or two each. Our brief moments of togetherness involved texting goals, saves and final scores to each other. It was very romantic.
Now that we are down to one hockey player in our family, we actually do attend quite a few games and tournaments together and with only one player in tow. Guess how often we sit together in the hockey arena now? Still. Never.
I take my designated spot in the bleachers with my trusted hockey blanket right smack dab along the blueline, while my husband takes his spot at the standard Hockey Dad Zone along the glass, or behind the bench helping man the doors. We will reconvene in the foyer after the game, sharing our own and often different perspectives on how the game went; teammates once again.
If you must know, our hockey viewing zone preferences was secretly buried in our wedding vows way back: “I, Peter, take you Astra, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer or poorer still, in sickness and in health, in wins and losses, each to our own designated spectator zone, to love and to cherish; from this day forward; home and away. Game on!” I happen know we’re not the only hockey couple who can’t sit with each other during games.
Sadly, it’s not just during hockey games that our hockey parent behaviours are different, there are roles take different stances. Outside the arena, there are just some things that I take care of that my husband generally does not. My jobs include washing jerseys, socks and hockey underwear, washing mouth guards, filling water bottles, making sure iCals are up to date with the hockey schedule, coordinating carpools, mending hockey pants, preparing the pre-game meal, making hotel reservations for out of town tournaments. What are my husband’s jobs, you ask? He makes sure the gear all still fits, gets the skates sharpened, tapes the sticks, and buys the beer (not always in this order).
Sigh. Hockey moms are designed to multi-task so I guess in some ways, the team roles are better this way. That is at least until death – or the blueline – do us part!
Three cheers for hockey mom harmony – because sitting with your spouse is overrated!
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